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Tips for Making Friends in a New City (While Adulting)

Adulting is Hard. Making-friends-in-a-new-city-while-adulting can be harder. A friend and I were chatting over coffee about the growth in Sacramento as twenty- and thirty-somethings have begun to look for more affordable, but still hip cities to put down roots. Having...

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10 Signs You’re Ready for Therapy

Many of the people who contact me haven't been in therapy before.  Maybe they have some friends who have opened up about their counseling experiences or maybe their only frame of reference is glimpses into therapy sessions on tv or in the movies -- which let me tell...

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You’re Not Broken

“Can you fix me?” It’s happened many times. A new client comes in for their first appointment. They’ve read my website, we’ve talked briefly on the phone, and after going over the questions that help me learn more about you in the first session—they take a deep sigh,...

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How to Complain in Relationships

Conflict in relationships is inevitable. Your partner continues to show up late for date night. Or maybe they made a big purchase on your joint account without consulting you. No matter how much love and understanding there is in our relationships, our partners can do...

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How To Rebuild Trust After Infidelity: Part II

Last week I wrote about rebuilding trust after infidelity. Much of the focus was on helping the hurt partner heal after they learn about the infidelity. This week, I want to talk about the partner who had the affair. While the unfaithful partner* must take...

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How To Rebuild Trust After Infidelity: Part I

Couples who are committed to healing after infidelity do the hard and often rewarding work of rebuilding trust. I spend time supporting my couples in conversations to help the hurt partner* rebuild trust. This includes: Helping the unfaithful partner provide...

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Valentine’s Day in Sacramento

I walked into Raley’s this weekend and I was BOMBARDED with pink and red. A dozen roses for $100—reserve them now! Candy, cookies, balloon bouquets—don’t forget to shower your loved one with goodies! Visions of last-minute shoppers rushing to the store so their...

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5 Stages of Grief & Loss

When we give ourselves permission to grieve, we often move through 5 stages of grief. We don’t move through these stages in any specific order, though. And we can absolutely go back and forth through the emotions—or move to acceptance and still have days pop up where...

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When you’re grieving: There’s no “wrong” way

You lost someone you love and it seems like everyone is saying things like... “They’re in a better place.” “You’ll see them again one day.” “They would want you to move on.” “At least you got to say goodbye.” “At least they aren’t in pain anymore.” “At least you have...

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Important Information for Couples Seeking Lasting Love

In addition to the counseling I do with couples, I spent 4 years facilitating relationship groups at a Sacramento community agency. I loved this work—and to make it even better, I led the groups with my spouse. We were able to play a part in helping to strengthen...

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Good Enough.

So many of us battle perfectionistic traits. No matter how hard we try, we fall short of our own standards. This can lead to harmful self-judgement, shame, chronic stress. Maybe these standards came from society's expectations, a less than nurturing caregiver, or an...

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We’re In This Together

These words bring me so much comfort whether I'm reciting them to a friend, hearing them from my partner, or repeating them in my mind. Feeling alone is a natural part of being human. We've all felt this way.  And it can be painful. Next time you are feeling alone,...

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What is Trauma?

After counseling & supporting countless survivors of trauma over the years, I wanted to create some easy to understand information. These articles are meant to offer knowledge & hope for survivors of trauma. It is my belief that KNOWLEDGE + HOPE = EMPOWERMENT. Let’s...

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It’s Okay to Fall

When we try, sometimes we fall. And that's okay. Think of a child learning to ride a bike. Their excitement to try something new. Practicing first with training wheels. Then with someone else holding them and running beside. Now it's time to take a big risk, on their...

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