Why Can’t I Stop Thinking About My Ex?!

Why Can’t I Stop Thinking About My Ex?!

You wake up and think about how much you miss them.  You hear something you think they’d find funny or interesting, and you wish you could text them.  You watch a familiar show or hear a song on the radio, and your mind instantly goes to them.  You have a hard day,...

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How to Set Boundaries with Family During the Holidays

How to Set Boundaries with Family During the Holidays

The holiday season has arrived! Tis the season for cookie baking, latkes making, and binging cheesy Hallmark movies. It’s the season of giving, joy, and for many…anxiety. While the holidays are intended to bring warmth and cheer, they often leave us feeling...

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Domestic Violence Awareness & Advocacy In California

Domestic Violence Awareness & Advocacy In California

At Love Heal Grow, most of our clients are survivors of abuse.  Sadly, this isn’t surprising as 1 in 4 women have experienced violence by a partner, 7 million children live in families in which severe partner violence has occurred, and 500 women are sexually assaulted...

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11 Tips for Marriage after 11 Years Married

11 Tips for Marriage after 11 Years Married

My recently engaged little sister is in the midst of planning her wedding. After celebrating 11 years of marriage to my husband over the weekend, I thought about what advice I might offer her as she prepares to marry a wonderful person.   So here they are, 11...

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Surviving Your Quarter Life Crisis

Surviving Your Quarter Life Crisis

If you remember flip phones and unlimited minutes after 8pm, or the pinnacle of early 2000s fashion (bell-bottom jeans and layered tank tops), then you might find yourself as a now twenty-something asking, “When the hell did I become an adult???”    They’re not...

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How Invisible Labor Can Kill Your Relationship

How Invisible Labor Can Kill Your Relationship

  Invisible Labor and How It’s Affecting Your Relationship   Perhaps this is the product of my recent “binge-watch” of Desperate Housewives, but nonetheless I find myself fascinated with the phenomenon of “invisible labor”.    Invisible labor is an...

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5 Common Causes and Cures for the Sexless Marriage

5 Common Causes and Cures for the Sexless Marriage

  You started out hot and heavy and now you can’t remember the last time you got it on.  Whether it’s been a few weeks, a few months, or a few years, it can be painful and confusing when sex has somehow fallen off the agenda.     Are you in a sexless...

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Your Relationship Shouldn’t Be the Hardest Part of Life

Your Relationship Shouldn’t Be the Hardest Part of Life

  As much as I love love (is it obvious, y’all?), I am not someone who gets super in to Valentine’s day. I mean, we do the cards, flowers, yummy meal thing…but unless it’s a couple trinkets for my daughter, I’m not buying out the dollar section in Target come...

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5 Ways to Cope When Jealousy Rears Its Head

5 Ways to Cope When Jealousy Rears Its Head

    I have this memory from back when I was in grad school.  I was working 3 different jobs, keeping up with classes, in my own therapy, and probably stuck in a bit of a depression as the stress piled on and on (and on).   I often felt like I wasn’t...

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Give Yourself an Effing Break. Life is Hard Right Now.

Give Yourself an Effing Break. Life is Hard Right Now.

  I'm hearing over and over again in therapy sessions right now...    "I'm doing all the ‘right’ things but I'm still not feeling very good. What am I doing wrong?”   And then just last weekend (after riding the same roller-coaster in life that we all...

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Boundaries – The Antidote to Bitter Burnout

Boundaries – The Antidote to Bitter Burnout

It’s 7:30pm by the time you walk through the front door.   You try to stuff the day’s work meetings, project deadlines, and conference calls to the back of your mind so you can make room to mentally zip through your home to-do list.   It’s Friday night but...

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