11 Tips for Marriage after 11 Years Married

11 Tips for Marriage after 11 Years Married

My recently engaged little sister is in the midst of planning her wedding. After celebrating 11 years of marriage to my husband over the weekend, I thought about what advice I might offer her as she prepares to marry a wonderful person.   So here they are, 11...

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Surviving Your Quarter Life Crisis

Surviving Your Quarter Life Crisis

If you remember flip phones and unlimited minutes after 8pm, or the pinnacle of early 2000s fashion (bell-bottom jeans and layered tank tops), then you might find yourself as a now twenty-something asking, “When the hell did I become an adult???”    They’re not...

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How Invisible Labor Can Kill Your Relationship

How Invisible Labor Can Kill Your Relationship

  Invisible Labor and How It’s Affecting Your Relationship   Perhaps this is the product of my recent “binge-watch” of Desperate Housewives, but nonetheless I find myself fascinated with the phenomenon of “invisible labor”.    Invisible labor is an...

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5 Common Causes and Cures for the Sexless Marriage

5 Common Causes and Cures for the Sexless Marriage

  You started out hot and heavy and now you can’t remember the last time you got it on.  Whether it’s been a few weeks, a few months, or a few years, it can be painful and confusing when sex has somehow fallen off the agenda.     Are you in a sexless...

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Your Relationship Shouldn’t Be the Hardest Part of Life

Your Relationship Shouldn’t Be the Hardest Part of Life

  As much as I love love (is it obvious, y’all?), I am not someone who gets super in to Valentine’s day. I mean, we do the cards, flowers, yummy meal thing…but unless it’s a couple trinkets for my daughter, I’m not buying out the dollar section in Target come...

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5 Ways to Cope When Jealousy Rears Its Head

5 Ways to Cope When Jealousy Rears Its Head

    I have this memory from back when I was in grad school.  I was working 3 different jobs, keeping up with classes, in my own therapy, and probably stuck in a bit of a depression as the stress piled on and on (and on).   I often felt like I wasn’t...

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Give Yourself an Effing Break. Life is Hard Right Now.

Give Yourself an Effing Break. Life is Hard Right Now.

  I'm hearing over and over again in therapy sessions right now...    "I'm doing all the ‘right’ things but I'm still not feeling very good. What am I doing wrong?”   And then just last weekend (after riding the same roller-coaster in life that we all...

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Boundaries – The Antidote to Bitter Burnout

Boundaries – The Antidote to Bitter Burnout

It’s 7:30pm by the time you walk through the front door.   You try to stuff the day’s work meetings, project deadlines, and conference calls to the back of your mind so you can make room to mentally zip through your home to-do list.   It’s Friday night but...

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Surviving and Thriving During COVID-19

Surviving and Thriving During COVID-19

We're more than 8 months in to the coronavirus pandemic and it's safe to say that many of our clients are experiencing burnout related to the changes we've experienced in 2020. We've battled mandatory quarantines, travel restrictions, changes to every "normal" we've...

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Not Sleeping Well?

Not Sleeping Well?

A couple of months a caught myself in a horrible cycle.  Up late scrolling on the internet, turning my phone off but getting looped in anxious thoughts, dreading the moment my daughter wakes up because I didn't get enough sleep and I was just dying for a few more...

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Dealing with Anxiety following Arguments with Your Partner

Dealing with Anxiety following Arguments with Your Partner

I still remember the first time I had an argument with my now husband. Having met in college, we didn't become serious in our relationship right away.  Something about him, though, I knew that if we did end up moving to the next level--it was going to be a very...

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When Sex is Painful

When Sex is Painful

When sex is painful, we may find ourselves wondering what's wrong with us, struggling to relax and enjoy ourselves during intercourse, and maybe even avoiding sex all together.   An activity that we hope will be a time of connection, pleasure and...

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Is COVID wreaking havoc on your relationship?

Is COVID wreaking havoc on your relationship?

COVID-19 stress is certainly taking it's toll on all of us, huh? I know I have been feeling the stress as my husband and I do our best to make the right decisions to keep our family safe and healthy, juggle our full-time jobs, entertain and care for our toddler around...

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How To Improve Your Sex Life

How To Improve Your Sex Life

When couples first start sex therapy, they are usually feeling nervous and afraid that things just can’t get better. The good news is that usually within the first session, we are able to drill down to heart of the matter pretty quickly and identify changes that can...

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I Want to Talk About Sex, But I’m Too Scared!

I Want to Talk About Sex, But I’m Too Scared!

We aren’t really having sex anymore…is she not attracted to me anymore? Sex is starting to feel routine – I wish we could try something new…how do I tell him without hurting his feelings or making him mad? I keep turning her down because I hate how I look naked, and...

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When Body Insecurities Affect Your Sex Life

When Body Insecurities Affect Your Sex Life

  A couple sits in my office.  One partner is sad and frustrated that the other doesn't seem to be interested in sex anymore.  They are feeling very rejected.   The other partner says quietly, eyes looking down, "Honestly, it's not about you.  I don't like...

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