Anxiety is Not Really the Problem

Anxiety is Not Really the Problem

Surprisingly, if you are struggling with anxiety, or even an anxiety disorder, such as OCD, generalized anxiety, panic, etc., as hard as this is to believe, it’s not really the anxiety that’s the problem. It’s the intolerance of anxiety that’s causing the problems....

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The Harmful Impact of Conversion Therapy

The Harmful Impact of Conversion Therapy

If you’re a member of the LGBTQIA+ community, it’s likely that you’ve thought about therapy at least once or twice. Surveys show that queer American adults and youth both show elevated levels of depression and anxiety– which makes a lot of sense, given how hostile the...

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Tips on Pick-Ups and Drop-Offs for Coparents

Tips on Pick-Ups and Drop-Offs for Coparents

When you and an ex-partner are co-parenting, one principle must stand out above all others: You need to do what’s best for your children. This means compliance with custody rulings, which are made with the kids’ needs in mind. This also means you need to do everything...

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Anxiety? OCD?  Here’s Why You Are NOT Going Crazy

Anxiety? OCD? Here’s Why You Are NOT Going Crazy

By far the most common concern that my clients who struggle with significant anxiety, obsessions and compulsions bring to the first session is the question. “Am I going crazy?” (“Am I having a nervous breakdown?” is a close second).  My answer is always a clear,...

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Are You Experiencing Worker Burnout?

Are You Experiencing Worker Burnout?

Do you dread going to work? Does thinking about a career you used to enjoy bring you apathy at best and make you want to break down in tears at worst? Does nothing about work motivate you any more, and you feel like you’re just barely scraping by? If so, you might be...

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Signs You’re in a Codependent Relationship

Signs You’re in a Codependent Relationship

Do you find yourself continually making excuses for your partner's irresponsible behavior and taking on the role of their primary caretaker, neglecting your own needs and aspirations in the process? Meanwhile, your partner relies heavily on you for emotional support...

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Finding A Mutual Language

Finding A Mutual Language

As a sex therapist I often find that folks struggle to communicate not only their desires, but daily tasks, the meanings attributed to certain things, and their overall needs. Lately, in my sessions, I have been introducing the idea of a mutual or shared language....

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What’s the Difference Between Loneliness and Solitude?

What’s the Difference Between Loneliness and Solitude?

Loneliness is a big challenge for a lot of people’s mental health. According to the US Surgeon General, loneliness can have significant health consequences. Loneliness and isolation increase the risk of developing mental health challenges, and lacking connection can...

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Tips to Conquer Your Fear of Flying

Tips to Conquer Your Fear of Flying

If your hands get clammy and your heart just about beats out of your chest before you step onto a plane, you are not alone. In fact, fear of flying impacts between 3-8% of people (which is a lot of people when you consider the number of people this represents). You...

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The Relationship Between Trauma and Anxiety

The Relationship Between Trauma and Anxiety

“Trauma” and “anxiety” aren’t just buzzwords– they’re real experiences that profoundly shape individuals' lives, influencing their thoughts, emotions, behaviors, and physiological responses. And unfortunately, they’re extremely common. The National Institute of Mental...

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Is Pornography Affecting Your Relationship?

Is Pornography Affecting Your Relationship?

People tend to have a really complicated relationship with porn. Some people like it and incorporate it into a healthy set of sexual practices. Other people hate it, finding it harmful by default and that the production is degrading. We are not here to debate the...

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Beyond Daydreams: Navigating Trauma-Related Dissociation

Beyond Daydreams: Navigating Trauma-Related Dissociation

Most of us are familiar with the experience of becoming so engrossed with a film or book that we lose track of time, going on “autopilot” during a long drive, or losing ourselves in a daydream. All of these are examples of benign dissociation which are a fairly common...

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Addressing Childhood Trauma as an Adult

Addressing Childhood Trauma as an Adult

One of the most frustrating societal expectations is the idea that as adults, we should just “get over” things that happened to us in the past– that whatever happened, it was so long ago that the mature thing to do is move past it and forget. And that expectation...

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Tips For Recovering From A Breakup

Tips For Recovering From A Breakup

Not all relationships end in happily ever after. It’s a hard truth, but for most of us, breakups are inevitable at some point. Sometimes they’re a relief; sometimes they’re impossibly hard. Just as every relationship is unique, every breakup is also different. Getting...

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How Lack of Sleep May Be Fueling Your Anxiety

How Lack of Sleep May Be Fueling Your Anxiety

Plenty of people toss and turn at night, fighting for sleep that doesn’t come. For most people, there are times when your mind races like a freight train through the night, refusing to let you slip into the restorative embrace of sleep. Instead, you find yourself...

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What To Do When You Feel Helpless During A Time Of War

What To Do When You Feel Helpless During A Time Of War

There’s a lot of bad news going around today, both nationally and internationally. For those of us in the US, seeing the violent conflicts in other parts of the world can be extremely distressing. It often feels like there’s nothing we can do, and it’s hard to not be...

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Does Overprotective Parenting Create Anxious Children?

Does Overprotective Parenting Create Anxious Children?

Most of the time, parents just want what’s best for their kids. But sometimes that can be hard to actually identify. Sometimes when we think we’re doing the right thing, we’re actually being too protective. While it's natural for parents to want the best for their...

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