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I Want to Talk About Sex, But I’m Too Scared!
We aren’t really having sex anymore…is she not attracted to me anymore? Sex is starting to feel routine – I wish we could try something new…how do I tell him without hurting his feelings or making him mad? I keep turning her down because I hate how I look naked, and...
When Body Insecurities Affect Your Sex Life
A couple sits in my office. One partner is sad and frustrated that the other doesn't seem to be interested in sex anymore. They are feeling very rejected. The other partner says quietly, eyes looking down, "Honestly, it's not about you. I don't like...
Why South Asians Can Have a Hard Time Asking for Help
This blog is part of our South Asian Perspective series. While topics will be relatable to many ethnicities and backgrounds, as part of our commitment to diversity, we are amplifying minority perspectives. Navneet Kaur works with clients of all...
Coming Out
Coming out is a celebration. Coming out is complicated. Coming out is scary. Coming out is lonely. Coming out is like finally being able to breathe. Coming out is unifying. Coming out is overwhelming. Coming out is awkward. Coming out never ends. These are...
Bay Area Teacher Has Message for Parents of School Aged Children during COVID Crisis
Should we be home-schooling our kids? What's the most important thing for our children right now? Will my kids fall behind? I'm so stressed--I'm worried I can't teach my kids everything they need to know right now. I talk with my sister, an elementary school...
How to Deal When You Can’t Stop Worrying
“I feel like I am going crazy”. “My mind is always on and I am tired of it”. “I don’t know what will happen to us and this is something that kills me inside”. “I am worried about what is going to happen to us”. If you have those thoughts and feel that way,...
Help! I’m a Therapy First-Timer! Where Do I Start?
How does this even work? Who should I pick? How much will this cost? How long will I have to go? Can I really talk about this stuff with a stranger? Does going to therapy mean something’s wrong with me? Why can’t I figure this stuff out on my own? What would my family...
Is it really “sex addiction”?
When a potential client reaches out to us with the common question "Do you treat sex addiction?" Part of me wants to say, "Well...it's complicated." Why? Because there isn't an actual diagnosis for sex addiction and as an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist, I don't buy...
5 Silent Relationship Killers that can cause Emotional Disconnection with your Partner
"I don’t feel any emotional connection with my husband anymore.” “We have been disconnected from each other for a long time… and I don’t know what to do.” “It seems like we have nothing in common and we have been living as roommates.” “I want us to be happy again, but...
Date Yourself
It’s the month of February – it’s raining pink hearts, red roses, and chocolates everywhere you turn! February is known as the month of love, and many people are making extra efforts to express their love for their partners and friends with dinner dates, cards, and...
Moving On After a Breakup or Divorce
Why was I with someone so wrong for me? Am I ready to get back into the dating scene? What exactly am I looking for…what if I get rejected? I don’t want to go through another failed relationship – I feel like I’ve wasted time. I forgot who I was and now I have to...
Five Steps to Survive Any Stressful Life Situations
When you get a cut, you put a bandage on it or when you get an infection, you take antibiotics, right? So why wouldn't we try to take care of ourselves in times of emotional distress due to unexpected life changes, including frequent arguments with loved ones,...
What You Need to Know About Grief
Most of us have experienced the painful loss of a family member, friend, colleague, or pet. Grief can feel so overwhelming, isolating, and confusing – leaving a person wondering if and how they will ever get through it. It’s a topic associated with pain, and because...
Public Speaking, Performance Anxiety…and Sex.
Have you heard that statistic that public speaking is most people's number one fear – rated higher for most folks than their fear of death? It’s often not the actual act of speaking publicly that we are afraid of. It’s all the negative thoughts and fears in our...
Relationship Conflict is a Good Thing
In my work, I love nothing more than being able to support people in building their ideal life and relationships. I truly believe that most things we can hope for and envision are possible with time persistence support from others, and self-compassion. ...
You are Super Smart, but You Can’t Read Your Partner’s Mind
Your brain is awesome. Your synapses are firing throughout the day to keep you alive and safe. Your brain holds all of your past experiences and knowledge to help you better interpret what is going on around you and help you to automatically respond to...
Higher Sex Drive Than Your Boyfriend or Husband: Let’s Talk About It
My heart breaks every time a woman with male partner comes into my office convinced she is the only woman in the world with a higher sex drive than her boyfriend/husband. She tells me like she's sharing a shameful secret. Like even I, a sex...
Erectile Dysfunction: Sex Therapy Can Help
Here at Love Heal Grow Counseling, we are contacted multiple times a week by men who are experiencing erectile dysfunction (ED). Sometimes it's been going on for years, sometimes they thought the issues were behind them only to be caught off guard by more...
Women & Low Sexual Desire – Sex Therapy
Myth: Women are less sexual than men. Myth: Women lose all interest in sex after marriage or as they get older. Myth: If you don't get turned on easily or often, you don't enjoy or care about sex as much as someone who does. Women who have a low...
Why Emotions are So Important
Emotions aren't just touchy-feely fluff. We need to take the time to express our emotions and to validate our partner's emotions because this is what connects us as human beings. When we let ourselves better understand each other's emotions, we'll feel...
Accepting Our Partner’s Corrections
When we take a chance in guessing how our partner is feeling, we might get it wrong--that's okay! If our partner corrects us, accept this graciously and take their correction to better understand how they are truly feeling. ...
