Rahul Ragu, LMFT

Therapist in Sacramento & Online

rahul@lovehealgrow.com

(916) 245-0306

pronouns: he/him/his

Available Mondays-Thursdays (including evenings), Saturdays

Specialties:

Relationship Therapy for Partners & Individuals
Sex Therapy: Long Term Couples, Erectile Dysfunction, Performance Anxiety
Shyness, Awkwardness & Social Anxiety
Anxiety/Trauma in Relationships
Grief & Loss Counseling

Rahul Ragu Sacramento Therapist Online

I help individuals and couples who want more joy & connection in their lives–but often feel shy, awkward, or a little bit different.

 

You can experience more fulfillment in your life and relationships! I’m here to support you.

 

I’m the type of therapist who knows that when we’ve had past experiences of being judged or hurt by others, we can feel anxious when we try to build relationships and friendships–it can feel like we don’t belong, like we don’t even know what to say or do sometimes.

 

Life can be hard.  Especially when we’ve been hurt by others.

Whether you grew up in an abusive home, were judged for being different, were betrayed in an important relationship, or struggled to build lasting friendships or relationships–we can carry that pain inside and struggle with self confidence and connection to others.

Even though it’s the thing we most want–to feel less alone.

You deserve to understanding and healing–it is possible to feel less anxious, more confident, and to build stronger relationships.

 

I use evidence-based methods to help gain relief from your pain–and I use the security of our therapeutic relationship so you can open up about things that are hard to talk about with others.  The weight off our chest when we finally release that pain can be so healing!

My approach with clients is that I try to completely non-judgmental and respectful of diverse clientele. I truly feel that we are united as human beings and people should be treated equally.

I provide culturally affirming care for people who feel marginalized–you may experience trauma or judgment in our society, but I embrace people from diverse populations including race, ethnicity, gender, socioeconomic status, LGBTQ+, sexual orientation, and other backgrounds.

 

I have been told that I am easy to talk to and have a calming presence. Many clients have shared their deepest traumas with me that they have not shared with anyone else. I feel honored when clients open up to me about their experiences and let me into their life.

My path into the mental health profession was guided by my own challenges that I have overcome. I can truly attest to the healing power of the therapeutic relationship. It is important to find someone who you can trust to help you on your journey.

I have worked with children, teens, adults, and families with moderate to severe mental health challenges in different community-based settings.

 

I truly believe that anyone can feel better through therapy if they are committed and trust the process. It is all about taking baby steps and making gradual progress.

Everybody is on their own journey. It is important not to compare your progress to others. Everyone starts at a different point and people have varying levels of challenges.

 

I am a very positive and kind person and see the glass as half full. You might not be able to see the positives in your situation right now, and that’s okay.  I will support you by highlighting your strengths and helping you move towards more peace and joy in your life.

My goal is to first develop rapport with my clients through empathy and being client centered. Then I like to work with my clients on skills and techniques that can help improve their relationships and self-esteem. Everything starts with relationship and trust and then we can work on overcoming your presenting concerns.

 

On a personal note…

I consider myself to be a calm, caring, kind, and spiritual person with a great sense of humor. In my personal time I enjoy meditation and yoga and I am respectful of all different cultures, religions, and spiritual practices. I enjoy spending time with my friends and family and being outdoors. I am a big sports fan and enjoy watching basketball, football, and tennis. I enjoy reading good books and improving my knowledge base. I am extremely passionate about the mental health field and helping clients to reach their goals.

 

I feel honored to be a part of your journey and love to help my clients see progress in their lives and feel better. I look forward to working with you!

My areas of expertise are:

 

Couples Therapy for Better Connection & Communication

I have experience working with couples as well as the entire family unit. I have found that couples often need help communicating and getting in touch with themselves. When couples have children, they sometimes lose touch with their own relationship. I have found it helpful for couples to use “I statements” and have fair fighting rules. It is helpful to take timeouts when arguments start to escalate. In cases where there is excessive arguing it is helpful for couples to speak directly to the therapist to reduce emotional reactivity. When there is domestic violence, it is helpful for partners to engage in individual therapy before doing couple’s therapy.

 

Sex Therapy

Sex is a normal part of human functioning and should be fun. However, clients can have trauma around sex due to an abusive history or religious/spiritual conflict. As a therapist I try to reduce the stigma around sex and maintain a sex positive attitude. I have helped clients to sort out their beliefs and mental conflicts around sex. Clients have a difficult time talking about sex. It is very rewarding to help clients improve their communication around sex and start enjoying their sex lives. There are many exercises we can do to improve sexual communication and functioning. Couples who have a great sex life tend to be more satisfied with their relationship in the long run.

 

Grief and loss

I have helped individuals and couples who have recently lost loved ones such as parents, siblings, grandparents, children, friends, and significant others. Most of us experience the loss of a loved one at different points in our lives. Grief and loss issues are inevitable, and people grieve in their own ways. People take different amounts of time to heal from tragic events. I will be present with you during these hard times and show great empathy and compassion. I respect everyone’s grieving process and will not push you to get over it quickly. It is important that we fulfill our grieving process and come to terms with these events over time. Eventually you will feel more peace of mind and will incorporate these events into your own self-identity. Grief is also expressed differently in various cultures and the showing of emotionality varies across cultures.

CBT and Trauma Focused Therapy

I use Cognitive Behavioral Therapy in my treatment which is an evidenced based modality for many different disorders including anxiety and depression. It is very rewarding to see clients face their fears and going back to doing enjoyable activities. We will use cognitive reframing to change unhelpful thinking patterns into more positive alternative thoughts.  I have experience working with various trauma including physical, sexual, and emotional abuse, and neglect. These types of traumas typically require a longer-term approach, and I will work with you every step of the way. I will help you to feel comfortable sharing your experience at your own pace and will help you with relaxation and mindfulness techniques.

 

 

 

Formal Credentials

License

Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, #127697: Licensed to practice psychotherapy in California

 

 

Education

M.S., Counseling-Marriage and Family Therapy: California State University, Fresno

B.A., Psychology: University of California, Merced

Love Heal Grow Residency Trainings in Progress
Gottman Method Couples Therapy: Level I
Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (Hold Me Tight Program)
Gottman Couples Therapy: Level 2
Gottman Couples Therapy: Trauma and Infidelity
Modern Sex Therapy Institute: Addressing Common Sexual Concerns in Individuals and Couples
Modern Sex Therapy Institute: LGBTQIA Affirmative Therapy
Modern Sex Therapy Institute: Alternative Sexualities/Non-Traditional Relationships
Anti-Racism & Culturally Affirmative Care,
Diversity & Resiliency Institute of El Paso