What is Gottman Method Couples Therapy?
Developed by Drs. John and Julie Gottman of The Gottman Institute, Gottman Method Couples Therapy is a research-based approach to strengthening relationships.
Dr. John Gottman has been studying relationships for decades, gaining insight about what makes relationships last. Over 3,000 couples participated in long-term research studies, which led to the development of one of the leading methods of couples therapy.
What are the goals of Gottman Method Couples Therapy?
-To increase respect, affection and closeness,
-Break through and resolve conflict when partners feel stuck,
-Generate greater understanding between partners,
-And keep conflict discussions calm.
How do we accomplish this?
Drs. Gottman developed “The Sound Relationship House” which includes the 9 components of a healthy relationship. A therapist who is trained in The Gottman Method can keep your therapeutic work on track by including activities in session which help your relationship in these areas:
- Build Love Maps (or how well you know your partner’s inner world).
- Share Fondness and Admiration (the antidotes to contempt).
- Turn Towards (small moments of relationship bonding).
- The Positive Perspective (maintain positive view of your partner even in times of conflict).
- Manage Conflict (how to manage conflict even when there isn’t a clear resolution).
- Make Life Dreams Come True (encourage the couple to share honestly about hopes, values and aspirations).
- Create Shared Meaning (understand the important stories and dreams for your relationship).
- Trust (creating a secure feeling in the relationship).
- Commitment (believing and acting as committed life partners).
As a relationship therapist in Sacramento,
I’ve had the privilege of training with the Gottmans and have completed Gottman Method Couples Therapy Levels I and II. Depending on your needs, I blend Gottman Method and Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFT) to give your relationship the best chance of success.
Contact me today for more information.