16 Signs of a Good Therapist

by

16 signs of a good therapist

In 2022, about 56 million American adults saw a therapist. And that’s great! Seeing a therapist is a sign that you’re taking your mental health seriously and are willing to invest in your own happiness and wellbeing. But not every therapist is a great fit for you. It can be hard to choose a therapist, or to switch therapists if you need to. But finding the right mental health practitioner is an important part of the process. With the wrong therapist, your mental health can stagnate, or even regress; with the right therapist, you can take control of your mental health journey and get what you want out of the process.

But how do you know if a therapist is right for you? There are lots of signs that a therapist is likely to be helpful. A good therapist provides a safe, supportive environment where you can explore your thoughts and feelings, develop coping strategies, and work towards personal growth. Today, we’re going to look at some of the green flags that show that a therapist might be a good fit for your needs.

1. They Create a Safe and Comfortable Environment

A good therapist makes you feel safe and comfortable from the first session. This environment allows you to open up about your thoughts and feelings without fear of judgment. You should feel that your therapist respects you and your experiences, and that they are there to support you.

2. They Are Empathetic and Non-Judgmental

Empathy is crucial in therapy. A good therapist listens to you with understanding and compassion, without judging your experiences or feelings. They validate your emotions and experiences, helping you feel heard and understood. This empathetic approach is essential for building a trusting therapeutic relationship.

3. They Are Skilled Communicators

Effective communication is a cornerstone of good therapy. A skilled therapist can explain complex concepts in a way that you can understand and relate to. They also encourage open dialogue, making it easy for you to express your thoughts and ask questions.

4. They Respect Your Boundaries

A good therapist respects your personal boundaries and never pressures you to discuss topics you’re not ready to explore. They understand that therapy is a gradual process and that you need time to feel comfortable sharing certain aspects of your life.

5. They Are Open to Discussing Your Sex Life

If you’re seeking sex therapy, it’s important to find a therapist who is comfortable discussing sexual topics. A good therapist will ask about your sex life in a respectful and non-judgmental way, helping you address any sexual concerns or issues. They understand that sexual health is an important aspect of overall well-being and are prepared to support you in this area.

6. They Have the Necessary Qualifications and Experience

A good therapist has the appropriate education, training, and experience to help you with your specific issues. Look for a licensed professional who has experience in the areas you need support with. For sex therapy, ensure they have specialized training in sexual health and therapy.

7. They Offer Evidence-Based Treatments

Effective therapists use evidence-based treatments that are supported by research. These treatments have been proven to be effective for a range of mental health issues. Your therapist should be able to explain the rationale behind their chosen treatment methods and how they can benefit you.

8. They Are Culturally Competent

Cultural competence is important in therapy. A good therapist is aware of and respects your cultural background and how it influences your experiences and perspectives. They should be open to learning about your culture and incorporating it into your treatment plan.

9. They Provide Clear Goals and a Treatment Plan

A good therapist works with you to set clear, achievable goals and develops a treatment plan tailored to your needs. They should regularly review these goals and adjust the treatment plan as necessary, ensuring that you’re making progress and staying on track.

10. They Encourage Your Independence

While it’s important to have a strong therapeutic relationship, a good therapist also encourages you to develop independence. They help you build the skills and confidence to manage your mental health outside of therapy, empowering you to take control of your well-being.

11. They Are Patient and Persistent

Therapy can be a long and challenging process, but a good therapist remains patient and persistent. They understand that progress can be slow and that setbacks are a natural part of the journey. They support you through these ups and downs, encouraging you to keep moving forward.

12. They Maintain Professional Boundaries

A good therapist maintains clear professional boundaries, ensuring that the therapeutic relationship remains focused on your well-being. They avoid dual relationships (they won’t try to be your friend outside of therapy) and maintain confidentiality, which is essential for building trust and safety in therapy.

13. They Are Open to Feedback

A good therapist is open to feedback and willing to adjust their approach based on your needs. They encourage you to share your thoughts about the therapy process and are receptive to making changes to better support you.

14. They Help You See the Value in Your Work Together

Therapy should be a collaborative process where you see the value in the work you’re doing. A good therapist helps you recognize your progress and the benefits of the therapeutic journey. They celebrate your successes with you and help you understand the significance of your efforts.

15. They Are Trauma-Informed

A good therapist recognizes the impact of trauma on mental health and is trained to handle trauma-related issues with sensitivity and care. They understand how past traumatic experiences can affect your current emotional state and relationships. By being trauma-informed, they can create a safe space for you to explore and heal from these experiences without feeling re-traumatized.

16. They Are Flexible

Life is unpredictable, and sometimes you might need flexibility with your therapy sessions. A good therapist is willing to accommodate changes in your schedule and can adapt their approach to meet your evolving needs.

Finding A Good Therapist

Finding the right therapist is a vital step towards improving your mental health and well-being. A good therapist creates a safe, supportive environment, offers evidence-based treatments, and helps you develop the skills needed to manage your mental health independently. By recognizing the signs of a good therapist, you can ensure that you find a professional who truly supports your journey.

If you’re ready to start your therapy journey, consider scheduling a session with a therapist at Love Heal Grow. Each of our therapists is committed to providing compassionate, effective care tailored to your unique needs. Take the first step towards a healthier, happier you by reaching out today.

 

Love Heal Grow Therapists
Filter & Find Your Match

Megan Negendank, LMFT, CST Founder (she/her)

Megan Negendank, LMFT, CST Founder (she/her)

CEO & Founder | 450 per session | Relationship & Sex Therapy, Relationship Trauma, Emotional & Physical Intimacy, Executives & Creatives | Not accepting new clients
Madison Hamzy, LMFT (Online Only, she/her)

Madison Hamzy, LMFT (Online Only, she/her)

Therapist & Assistant Director | 250 per session | Relationship & Sex Therapy, Intimate Connection & Less Stress, Men with ED or ADHD, People who get stuck in their heads and worry a lot
Natalie Delfin, LCSW (she/they)

Natalie Delfin, LCSW (she/they)

Therapist & Clinical Supervisor | 200 per session | Relationship & Sex Therapy, More Pleasurable Sex, Men learning to express feelings, CNM & Kink, Queer & Trans
Rachel Cloud, LCSW (she/her)

Rachel Cloud, LCSW (she/her)

Therapist & Clinical Supervisor | 220 per session | Relationship & Sex Therapy, Healing from Abuse & Betrayal, Queer & Trans Identity, People who care deeply and are told they are "too much"
Ann Marie McKnight, LMFT (she/her)

Ann Marie McKnight, LMFT (she/her)

Therapist | 250 per session | Relationship & Sex Therapy, Grief & Loss, Childhood Emotional Neglect, Family Therapy for Parents & Adult Children | Contact therapist to be added to waitlist
Jessie Regan, LMFT (she/her)

Jessie Regan, LMFT (she/her)

Therapist & Clinical Supervisor | 270 per session | Relationship & Sex Therapy, Healing from Infidelity, Discernment & Divorce, Workplace Stress & Pressure
Linda Rolufs, LMFT (Online Only, she/her)

Linda Rolufs, LMFT (Online Only, she/her)

Therapist | 240 per session | Relationship & Sex Therapy, Anxiety & OCD, Menopausal and post-menopausal women wanting more pleasure in sex, Women who feel invisible
Ashley Barnes, LMFT (she/her)

Ashley Barnes, LMFT (she/her)

Therapist | 200 per session | Relationship & Sex Therapy, High-Achievers & Type-A Personalities, Intimacy & Connection, Low Self Esteem, Trauma & Anxiety
Lindsay Glass, LMFT (Online Only, she/her)

Lindsay Glass, LMFT (Online Only, she/her)

Therapist | 200 per session | Relationship & Sex Therapy, Parenting Couples, Cycle-breaking Moms, Deep Thinkers & Deep Feelers
Maegan Tanner, AMFT (she/her)

Maegan Tanner, AMFT (she/her)

Therapist | 180 per session | Relationship & Sex Therapy, Stress & Burnout, LGBTQ+, People who judge themselves a lot
Susan DuBay, LMFT (she/they)

Susan DuBay, LMFT (she/they)

IFS Therapist | 200 per session | Relationship & Sex Therapy, Communication & Intimacy, LGBTQ+, Folks wanting to go deep in their trauma work | Not accepting new clients
Emily Alampi, AMFT (Online Only, she/her)

Emily Alampi, AMFT (Online Only, she/her)

Therapist | 170 per session | Relationship & Sex Therapy, Anxiety & Stress, Frustration & Anger, Queer & Trans, Neurodivergence, People who feel like they don't fit in
Charisse Brass, AMFT (she/her)

Charisse Brass, AMFT (she/her)

Therapist | 170 per session | Relationship & Sex Therapy, Emotional & Physical Connection, Stress & Burnout in Highly Productive People, Existential Angst & Life Meaning | Not accepting new clients
Joanna de Leon, AMFT (Online Only, she/her)

Joanna de Leon, AMFT (Online Only, she/her)

Therapist | 170 per session | Relationship & Sex Therapy, Burnout & Pressure to be Successful, Immigrants & First Gen, Current & Former Athletes, People who Avoid Conflict
Flo Oliveira, AMFT (they/them)

Flo Oliveira, AMFT (they/them)

Sex Therapist | 170 per session | Relationship & Sex Therapy, QTBIPOC, More Pleasure in Sex, CNM & Kink Affirming, People worried about their porn-use & sexual behaviors
Maria Dimachkie, ACSW (she/her)

Maria Dimachkie, ACSW (she/her)

Trauma Therapist | 180 per session | Relationship & Sex Therapy, Survivors of Trauma: Sexual Assault & Relationship Abuse; People who have been hurt by loved ones; People who question themselves a lot | Contact therapist to be added to waitlist
Samaria Parada, AMFT (she/ella)

Samaria Parada, AMFT (she/ella)

Bilingual Therapist | 160 per session | Relationship & Sex Therapy, Communication & Connection, Family & Cultural Stress & Trauma, BIPOC & First Gen
Madilyn Schweikert, AMFT (she/her)

Madilyn Schweikert, AMFT (she/her)

Therapist | 160 per session | Relationship & Sex Therapy, Communication & Intimacy, Betrayal & Infidelity, Couples with age gaps, Creatives & Sensitive People
Ella Sword, AMFT (she/her)

Ella Sword, AMFT (she/her)

Therapist | 160 per session | Relationship & Sex Therapy, Communication & Connection, Parenting, Anxiety & Depression
Hannah Slicton-Williams, LMFT (she/her)

Hannah Slicton-Williams, LMFT (she/her)

Trauma Therapist | 200 per session | Relationship & Sex Therapy, Healing from Trauma - Relationship Abuse, Violence, and Sexual Assault, Love after Trauma
Abby Hollandsworth, AMFT (she/they)

Abby Hollandsworth, AMFT (she/they)

Therapist | 160 per session | Relationship & Sex Therapy, Communication & Intimate Connection, Anxiety-Depression-Anger, LGBTQ+, Religious Trauma & Grief | Contact therapist to be added to waitlist
Liza Haroldson, LCSW (she/her)

Liza Haroldson, LCSW (she/her)

Therapist | 240 per session | Relationship & Sex Therapy, Disconnected & Bickering Couples, Depleted & Exhausted Working Moms, Low Self Esteem, Trauma & Anxiety
Love Heal Grow Relationship Therapy Center Sacramento

Free Relationship Therapy Starter Pack

*How to Find a Therapist

*What to Expect in Your First Appointment

*How to Get the Most Out of Therapy

*How to talk to your boss about going to therapy during the workday

*How to seek reimbursement for therapy from your PPO plan

*Over twenty pages of relationship and life stressor tips and exercises that it would usually take 10+ therapy sessions to cover.

Check your email!