Are you curious about premarital counseling? Cool! I was curious, too, back when I was engaged and before I was a counselor. My now-husband and I thought it was something we might want to do, but we had the HARDEST time finding any real information on what to expect and who to turn to.
We knew we wanted to work with someone who understood that we weren’t the average couple looking for counseling — we weren’t fighting a lot and we actually felt really connected. Our relationship was the greatest part of our lives–which is why we were you know…getting married.
We also knew that every relationship takes work and we wanted to invest in our relationship in a meaningful way while we were planning one of the most important days of our life. Are you in a similar boat?
These are my 5 focuses when I work with engaged couples–I believe these are the 5 reasons you will love premarital counseling:
Fun, Love & Connection
We’ll focus on the fun, love & connection in your relationship. Sometimes, the engagement phase of a relationship can pull you in many directions or set you on an emotional rollercoaster. Your relationship is a touchstone to come back to and premarital counseling can help ensure you are making time for the fun, love and connection you want to stay strong.
Okay, I’ll just say it…wedding planning is stressful! As soon as we’re engaged (and sometimes before) we get bombarded by everyone’s expectations for the wedding. There can be huge pressure to do things a certain way, to figure out how to pay for everything, and oftentimes family issues get triggered–all of this puts stress on you as individuals and on the relationship itself. Premarital counseling can help you de-stress by learning how to best support each other during this time.
Preventative Care for your Marital Health
I have participated in hundreds of hours of training on what makes a marriage last, I’ve worked with hundreds of couples, and I have a bookshelf filled with books on the topic. I love passing along what I have learned to the couples who are interested.
My couples have told me that they see premarital counseling as insurance for their marriage–they have tools to keep their relationship strong, and they now know someone they can turn to if they get thrown any curve balls in the future.
Planning your Future
This is one of my favorite parts of premarital counseling because it honors the uniqueness of your relationship and marriage. When we get married, we are starting a new family together (even when we don’t have children).
What traditions and values do you want the foundation of your marriage to rest on? What is your vision for your marriage? Premarital counseling sets the framework for these discussions, inspiring you and aligning you in shared dreams.
All couples have topics that come up in their relationships that they might want to improve. These are areas of growth and premarital counseling can help you grow together in these areas instead of apart.
I started working with engaged couples over 5 years ago and it has been such a joy! Contact me if you are interested or if you have any questions–I’d love to hear from you!
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